Why HONOR

Modern dating apps have left us lonelier than ever, replacing real human connection with endless swiping and shallow profiles. Why? Because attraction isn’t built on a list of stats—it’s sparked by eye contact, body language, shared energy, and even subtleties like scent or the way someone moves. No app can replicate these in-person moments, and filtering by height, job title, or education reduces complex individuals to checkboxes.

For example:

  • Even though the average height of men in the US is 5'9", many women filter for men who are at least 6 feet tall.

  • 3 out of 4 women won’t go on a date with someone they don’t view as able to support them financially.

  • 74% of people are more likely to match with someone who has a college degree or higher.

These filters aren’t helping us find love—they’re holding us back. Attraction isn’t something you can calculate—it’s something you feel.

And it goes deeper than that. People are also filtering out potential connections based on values and life goals—like whether someone wants kids or shares their political or religious beliefs.

But here’s the irony: While filters push us to eliminate people who don’t perfectly align with our perceived preferences, these beliefs and life choices aren’t as fixed as we think nor as clear-cut. Political affiliation isn’t a finite code of beliefs—they exist on a spectrum. Life goals can evolve. Even dealbreakers that feel set in stone often shift when real connection is at play. Research shows that:

  • 74% of people would have kids—or give up having children—for the right partner.

  • 66% of people would compromise on their political beliefs for love.

  • 73% of people would date someone of a different religion, and 1 in 4 would even change their religion for the right person.

In the end, the things we think are non-negotiable often become flexible when we meet someone who truly matters. The truth is, real connections thrive where filters fail—and sometimes, opposites really do attract.

Serendipity is lost when chance is filtered out.

We want you to make meaningful connections with people you might have filtered out before—because sometimes, the right person doesn’t fit neatly into a checkbox. That’s why we deliberately make it hard to research someone before you meet.

It helps you show up with an open mind, free from assumptions and biases, while giving you the freedom to be seen for who you really are—without being reduced to a quick Google search or social media scroll.

Safety First. Always.

But we know openness requires trust. That’s why every HONOR member must pass a background check to ensure they have no violent history. This creates a foundation of safety and accountability from day one—so you can meet with confidence and focus on building genuine connections.

HONOR Dares You to Be Bold

Bold enough to commit to showing up, checking in, and meeting people face-to-face—without judging everyone with endless filters. Because the most meaningful moments in life happen when people come together through shared experiences and a willingness to say yes to real, in-person connections.